Book Resources

For the EVRYMAN Man

Aspects of Being a Man in Relationship to Himself and Others

Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It Richard Reeves focuses on the challenges that boys and men face in contemporary society. Rather than engaging in culture wars, Reeves’ analysis critically examines alarming evidence of male malaise and argues for structural and societal change.

The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection and Courage  Brené Brown  guides men in embracing their vulnerabilities and building deeper connections with themselves and others.

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl. This book is a memoir of the author’s experience as a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp during World War II. It highlights the importance of finding meaning in life and the power of resilience.

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown. This book emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in personal and professional relationships and offers practical tips for building resilience and connection.

No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Robert Glover. This book challenges the idea that being a “nice guy” is the best way to succeed in life, and offers strategies for setting boundaries, building self-esteem, and achieving personal goals. Many men struggle with prioritizing others’ needs  over their own and struggle to assert themselves in relationships and other areas of life. Glover provides practical advice for men who want to break free from this pattern and live more fulfilling lives.

Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence Owen Marcus explores the challenges men face in developing emotional intelligence and provides practical guidance on how to cultivate emotional maturity and resilience. This book offers insights on how to overcome shame, fear, and disconnection, and create more fulfilling relationships and a meaningful life. Marcus dives into how to complete the nine critical stages of a man’s development.

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression In this book, Terry Real explores the hidden epidemic of male depression and provides insight and guidance on how to recognize and overcome it.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson. This book challenges traditional notions of self-help and encourages men to embrace their imperfections and prioritize what truly matters in life.

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book offers a framework for personal growth and self-improvement through four simple agreements: 1) be impeccable with your word; 2)  don’t take anything personally; 3) don’t make assumptions;  and, 4)  always do your best.

Books on Stress and Trauma and Their Effects on Emotions

The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Gabor Maté, MD’s most recent book, does an excellent job relating research to how trauma and our culture limits us and what we can do about it.

When the Body Says No Gabor Maté explores the link between stress, disease, and the mind-body connection. It offers a powerful perspective on the impact of stress on health outcomes and provides practical tools for healing and recovery.

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk. This book explores the connection between trauma and the body, and offers strategies for healing and self-care.

Waking the Tiger Peter A. Levine  explores the impact of trauma on the nervous system and provides a framework for understanding the body’s response to stress. This book offers practical tools for releasing trauma and restoring balance to the body.

Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine. This book provides a step-by-step guide for understanding and healing trauma using the principles of Somatic Experiencing. It offers practical tools for releasing trauma and restoring balance to the body.

In an Unspoken Voice Peter A. Levine offers a comprehensive understanding of trauma physiology and provides a framework for understanding the body’s response to stress. This book  offers practical tools for healing trauma and building resilience.

The Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges. This book offers a new perspective on the nervous system and provides a framework for understanding the body’s response to stress and trauma. It offers practical tools for healing trauma and building resilience.

Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy by Pat Ogden, This book offers a comprehensive understanding of the body’s role in trauma and provides practical tools for healing using somatic psychotherapy techniques.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment Pat Ogden  offers a practical guide to using somatic psychotherapy techniques to treat trauma and attachment issues.

Anchored How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory by Deborah Dana. This book is designed to help readers understand and implement the polyvagal theory in their everyday lives. Dana is a licensed clinical social worker and consultant who has been working with trauma survivors for over 30 years.

The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain Annie Murphy Paul delves into the concept of the “extended mind,” which proposes that the human mind is not limited to the boundaries of the brain but rather extends to our external environment and tools that we use.

Inherited Trauma and Epigenetics

It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn. This book provides an in-depth exploration of how trauma can be passed down through generations and how it can be healed.

The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter & Miracles Bruce H. Lipton discusses the relationship between the mind and the body, and how epigenetics can be influenced by our beliefs and perceptions.

Life Span: Why We Age and Why We Don’t Have To by David Sinclair. This book discusses the latest research on aging and how epigenetics plays a role in the aging process.

Using the Body to Produce Emotional Change

Body-centered Psychotherapy: The Hakomi Method A comprehensive guide to the Hakomi Method, which is a body-centered approach to psychotherapy developed by Ron Kurtz. This book provides an overview of the method and its principles, and includes practical techniques for working with the body to promote healing and growth.

The Body Reveals: An Illustrated Guide to the Psychology of the Body An illustrated guide to the psychology of the body, and explores how our physical experiences can reveal our psychological states. This book includes exercises and techniques for working with the body to promote healing and growth.

Rolfing: The Integration of Human Structures, Ida Rolf, Ph.D., explains how creating structural order and soft tissue resiliency creates physical and emotional well-being.


Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic  Esther Perel examines the challenges of sustaining desire and intimacy in long-term relationships and offers insights into how couples can maintain their erotic spark.

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity Esther Perel takes a critical look at infidelity and explores why it happens, what it means, and how couples can move forward from it. She shows  the reader how to step out of their box about what causes infidelity.

How Attachment Theory and Our Need for Connection Support Men

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson. This book is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is an approach to couples therapy that is rooted in attachment theory. It includes practical exercises and techniques for improving emotional connection and building secure attachment in romantic relationships.

Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body by Peter A. Levine.  This book explores the relationship between trauma and attachment, and provides practical guidance on healing from trauma and developing secure attachment. It includes exercises and techniques for working with the body to restore a sense of safety and connection.


The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle. This classic book offers practical guidance on mindfulness and living in the present moment. It includes exercises and meditations to help readers develop greater awareness and reduce stress and anxiety.

Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness  A comprehensive guide to using mindfulness to cope with stress, pain, and illness. This book includes practical techniques for developing mindfulness and incorporating it into everyday life.

Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life Jon Kabat-Zinn  offers a practical guide to mindfulness meditation and living in the present moment. It includes exercises and meditations to help readers develop greater awareness and presence.

Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness Jon Kabat-Zinn explores the role of mindfulness in healing and personal transformation, and offers practical guidance on developing mindfulness in daily life.

Mindfulness for Beginners: Reclaiming the Present Moment and Your Life Jon Kabat-Zinn’s practical guide to mindfulness for beginners, and includes exercises, meditations, and practical tips for incorporating mindfulness into daily life.

Somatic Mindfulness

The Awakening Body  Reggie Ray provides practical guidance on how to incorporate somatic meditation into one’s daily practice. His teachings on Somatic Descent offer a unique perspective on how to access the body’s wisdom, and his six fundamental body-based meditation practices provide a roadmap for anyone seeking to deepen their meditation practice.

The Wakeful Body Somatic Mindfulness and the Practice of Freedom Willa Blythe Baker’s highly practical and approachable guide to somatic meditation, with easy practices for accessing the body’s inherent mindfulness.

Utilizing the Unconscious Mind

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy. This book is a classic in the field of utilizing the power of the unconscious mind. It provides practical techniques for harnessing the power of the unconscious mind to achieve goals and overcome challenges.

The Unconscious Mind by Karen Horney. This book provides an in-depth exploration of the unconscious mind from a psychoanalytic perspective. It covers topics such as repression, dreams, and the role of the unconscious in shaping our behavior.

The Healing Power of the Mind: Simple Meditation Exercises for Health, Well-Being, and Enlightenment by Tulku Thondup. This book provides practical exercises and techniques for utilizing the power of the unconscious mind to promote healing and well-being. It includes techniques such as visualization and guided meditation.

The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life  Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander offer a unique perspective on utilizing the power of the unconscious mind to transform our lives. This book includes practical techniques for shifting our mindset and creating new possibilities in our personal and professional lives.

Therapeutic Trances: The Cooperation Principle in Ericksonian Hypnotherapy This book presents a comprehensive guide to Ericksonian hypnotherapy, an approach that utilizes hypnotic trances to facilitate therapeutic change.

The Process of Transformation

The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell. This classic book explores the process of transformation through the lens of myth and storytelling. It identifies common patterns and themes that occur in stories from around the world, and highlights the importance of the hero’s journey as a metaphor for personal transformation.

Generative Trance: Third Generation Trance Work  In this book, Stephen Gilligan introduces the concept of generative trance, a state of heightened creativity and transformation that can be accessed through hypnosis.

The Hero’s Journey: A Voyage of Self-Discovery  Stephen Gilligan explores the concept of the hero’s journey as a metaphor for the process of personal transformation. It includes practical exercises and techniques for embarking on this journey.

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. This novel tells the story of a shepherd boy named Santiago who embarks on a journey of self-discovery and transformation. It explores themes of personal growth, purpose, and following one’s dreams.

The Healing Path: A Soul Approach to Illness  Marc Ian Barasch explores the connection between the soul and the body in the process of healing. It offers insights and guidance on how to use illness as a transformative experience and connect with one’s deeper self to facilitate healing.  

Dreambody: The Body’s Role in Healing the Self Arnold Mindell explores the connection between the body and the psyche in the process of healing. It provides insights and guidance on how to access and work with the body’s intelligence to facilitate personal growth and transformation.

Be Here Now Ram Dass tells the story of his spiritual awakening and provides readers with tools to take control of their lives.

Flow State

The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer Steven Kotler provides practical guidance on how to achieve peak performance in different areas of life. It draws on cutting-edge research in neuroscience, psychology, and other fields to offer insights and strategies on how to push beyond one’s limits and achieve the seemingly impossible.

Producing Results

Stephen Pressfield is a renowned author and screenwriter who has written several books on creativity, writing, and the process of producing. Here are some of his notable books on producing results:

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles Pressfield explores the internal obstacles that prevent us from producing, and provides practical guidance on overcoming them.

Do the Work: Overcome Resistance and Get Out of Your Own Way  This book offers a practical guide to producing, emphasizing the importance of overcoming resistance and taking action.

Turning Pro: Tap Your Inner Power and Create Your Life’s Work  In this book, Pressfield explores the transition from amateur to professional, and provides insights and guidance on how to develop a professional mindset and approach to producing.

The Artist’s Journey: The Wake of the Hero’s Journey and the Lifelong Pursuit of Meaning This book offers a new perspective on the hero’s journey, and explores how it can be applied to the creative process. It provides insights and guidance on how to navigate the challenges of producing and find meaning in one’s work.

The Art of Learning: An Inner Journey to Optimal Performance   Josh Waitzkin, a world-class chess player and martial arts champion, explores the principles of mastering any skill. It provides insights and guidance on how to cultivate a mindset of growth and use adversity as a tool for personal transformation.


Silicon Valley Porn Star: A Memoir of Redemption and Rediscovering the Self  Jason Portnoy’s personal transformation from a life of porn, extramarital affairs, and excess of every endeavor one would want. His transformation explains the crisis of masculinity in our modern world, where quests for unlimited power and success are the gateway drugs to addiction, dependency, and unhinged behavior.

Chasing the Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs   Johann Hari offers a compassionate and insightful perspective on addiction, challenging the prevailing view of addiction as a moral failing and offering a more nuanced understanding of the complex factors that contribute to drug use.

Emotional Safety

The Fearless Organization: Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace for Learning, Innovation, and Growth by Amy C. Edmondson explores the concept of psychological safety in the workplace and offers strategies for creating a culture of openness, trust, and learning.

Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity by Kim Scott. While not solely focused on psychological safety, this book offers practical advice on how to create an environment of honest and direct communication that fosters trust and collaboration.

The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety Defining the Path to Inclusion and Innovation by Timothy R. Clark describes how leaders can cultivate psychological safety in teams and organizations by guiding them through four successive stages.

The Traditional Books on Men’s Work

Iron John: A Book About Men by Robert Bly  explores the myth of the Wild Man and how it can help men reclaim their masculinity and find their place in the world. Bly argues that men need to reconnect with their primal nature and embrace their emotions in order to become fully realized individuals.

Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man  Sam Keen explores the complexities of masculinity and provides insights on how to cultivate a more authentic and integrated sense of self. It offers a thought-provoking examination of the cultural myths and stereotypes that shape men’s lives and provides guidance on how to transcend them and embrace a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine  Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette investigate the four archetypes of mature masculinity and provide guidance on how to integrate them into one’s life. It offers a transformative approach to men’s personal development and provides insights on how to cultivate a more authentic and empowered sense of self.

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire  by David Deida offers a guide for men to navigate the challenges of modern masculinity, including relationships, work, and sexuality.

Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom  Connor Beaton helps men face their inner demons and learn to overcome self-sabotaging behaviors; the book aims to help readers achieve a greater sense of freedom and fulfillment in their lives.

Carl Radke

Carl Radke, Pittsburgh native and Syracuse University TV/Film grad has been working around the TV industry since he was 20 as a model/actor/production assistant. You may recognize Carl from starring as a TV personality on the hit Bravo reality series ‘Summer House’ which began airing in 2017 and Season 7 coming on the horizon. He also currently serves as VP of Sales for Loverboy and is a founding member of the growing better for you alcohol brand. Carl has always had a close relationship to mental health advocacy with his involvement with Heal Our Heroes/Headstrong, a non-profit for mental health resources for our military veterans. Through his own mental health journey Carl has been focused on meditation, therapy, acupuncture to compliment his self care. In August 2020 Carl lost his older brother to several years of addiction and mental health issues. Carl hopes to share his journey and his brother’s story to help families and individuals to break the stigma around addiction and mental health in our society.

Carl Radke

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